How long to date before getting engaged in your 30s

How soon is too soon to propose? Turns out, the right timeline for an engagement has less to do with how long you’ve been together and more to do with how much you’ve been through together.

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“A couple must establish trust and safety before proposing marriage,” says Terri Di Matteo, a professional marriage therapist at Open Door Therapy. “Trust takes time to build, and rushing through this phase places the relationship's future at risk.” 

Keep scrolling to learn how soon is too early to propose, and how to know when to get engaged.

How long does the average person date before getting engaged?

When it comes to relationships — or when to get engaged — there’s no one-size-fits-all answer, but experts recommend dating for at least a couple of years before getting engaged.

“The best outcomes tend to occur when a couple is together for one to three years before proposing,” says Di Matteo — and research backs this up. One study published found that couples who got engaged after being in the relationship for at least three years were 39% less